Intentionally Supporting Our Preteens

When a baby is born, he is not developmentally ready to walk. One day, he reaches an age where he is, except that he is not, because he is never done it before. He is ready developmentally, but not experientially.

This is when we encourage the baby. We hold his hands and walk with him, up and down the hallway countless times. One day, he scoots over to a coffee table on his own volition. He slowly stands, with pudgy fingers cling tightly to the table, struggling to find balance. Eventually after a few wobbly moments, he let go. He takes a few tentative steps and falls.

Now, think about what we do when he falls. Do we shake our heads disapprovingly and say, “What is wrong with you! Why are you acting like that?” Do we rescue him and insist that he should never try walking again with our help? No. Of course not.

We celebrate the steps forward with claps and encouraging words. We celebrate that he is slowly becoming a child who can walk on his own and. This baby, who was once unable to walk, is now ready (developmentally not experientially). We celebrate his experiments. We celebrate his efforts and his risk-taking. We encourage these things because we know he needs these experiences to eventually stopped falling and start walking with confidence.

Preteens, much like toddlers, are developmentally ready to use new functions but they don’t have the experience to know how to use these functions well. Many of us find it harder to respond with claps and encouraging words to preteens as they take risks because they aren’t just taking stumbling steps and falling on the carpet.

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Seeking God with the Eyes of a Preschooler

In Matthew 18:1-4, the disciples ask Jesus about who would be the greatest in heaven. Jesus answered by calling a child not much older than an infant. He presented the child to the disciples and told them,

“Truly I tell you, unless you change
and become like little children,
you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever takes
the lowly position of this child
is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.”

Matthew 18:1-4 (NIV)

What did Jesus mean by “become like children”? The years I spent working as a preschool chaplain taught me ways of seeking the Father that I often forget as an adult.

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Praise and Worship

The word “worship” has almost become a cliché in our time and day. Whenever we hear someone says, “Let’s come to a time of worship…” or “I want them to start with worship.”, more often that not we think about a church service or a corporate singing experience. Others may also be hoping for an emotional experience during the song service. Depending on who you talk to, the word “worship” can mean many things.

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Light It Up!

I hope you have had a blessed break over the long weekend. Did you manage to view the fireworks? This year, the spectacle of lights had been brought out to the heartlands. I am pretty sure your Sunday night was brightly lighted up.

Source: Raj Nadaraundefinedjan, TODAY Online

As I watched the wonderful fireworks go off,
it reminded me of the verses in Matthew 5:15-16.

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Book Review – Girl, Stop Apologizing

I’ve shared on Rachel Hollis on my blog previously. Rachel is a #GirlBoss who I admire greatly because she boldly dreams for others to live a better life by sharing the messiness of her own ambitions. To say she has has amassed a huge online fan base is an understatement.


After seeing her first bestseller, “Girl, Wash Your Face”, launched successfully and having a part in that… I immediately said yes to the launch of her second book, “Girl, Stop Apologizing: A Shame-Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals.”


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Female Leadership in Church

I am in the midst of gathering my thoughts on a book I’m reading – Developing Female Leaders: Navigate The Minefields and Release the Potential of Women in Your Church (proper review to come). I will leave that for another post, but there’s something more pressing I would like to share.


Since we are celebrating International Women’s Day today, I pondered on the campaign theme #BalanceforBetter and these things that naturally follow. How can we help to forge a more gender-balanced world? Do we celebrate women’s achievement? But more than that, should we raise awareness against bias, especially in church?

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Preparing Our Hearts for Lent

Lent is a season of forty (40) days, not counting Sundays, which begins on Ash Wednesday and ends on Holy Saturday. Lent comes from the Anglo Saxon word lencten, which means “spring.” This year (2019), we begin Lent on 6 March.


Lent is a time of repentance, fasting and preparation for the coming of Easter. It is a time of self-examination and reflection. The forty days represents the time Jesus spent in the wilderness, enduring the temptation of Satan and preparing to begin his ministry.

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End of Lunar New Year Celebrations

Lunar New Year​: Is It for Christians?


Lunar New Year is the most important festival on the Asian calendar. The festival begins on the first new moon of the Chinese lunar calendar, and lasts from several days up to two weeks. Today (19 February 2019) is the 15th day of Lunar New Year, marking the last day of celebrations worldwide.

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God’s Love Letter to You

What’s the greatest gift a loved one could give you?

Flowers, an engagement ring, a day at the spa?

Perhaps loving words that convey how much you mean to them…


Whether you’re single or happily in a relationship this Valentine’s Day, you have access to a wide collection of love letters… right at your fingertips. We find them in God’s Word. They range from powerful proclamations to ornate poetry, declarations of true friendship, passionate songs, and earnest tough-love letters.

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